In every relationship that we have – whether it be with our spouse or partner, our siblings, parents, relatives, friends, colleagues, workmates, or even with our neighbors – there will always be some challenges we will encounter along the way which can have either a positive or negative influence on our relationships.
A relationship has been defined as the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected. Simply put, it is the state of being connected. And in human relationships, we define that as a bond or connection between two individuals.
There will always be decisions to make when we are in a relationship, but there are some aspects that we really don’t have a choice or a say on the matter. We don’t get to choose, for example, our family because we are born into it. BUT, we do have a choice on the level and the health of our relationship with them.
Work out the level of relationship that you want to have with somebody by asking the questions:
Do I want this person to be a part of my innermost circle? Your innermost circle is the people that you hold closest to your heart.
Is this person a part of my middle circle? These people are the ones that you like to spend time with but are not necessarily your go-to people or the people that you call on when you are either having a difficult time or celebrating something.
Is this person part of my outer circle? These people are the ones that you strictly limit your time with.
When you are able to determine what level of relationship the people in your life is at, you will be able to take the steps to foster a healthy relationship with them and avoid any unnecessary negativity in your life.
Remember that in relationships, you are 100% responsible for the results that you get because you are 100% responsible for your actions, your words, your thoughts, and how you express them.
So, as you are able to determine the level of your relationships, the next thing that you need to do is rate the relationships in your life on a scale of 1-10. A scale of 1 signifies an extremely poor and probably highly toxic relationship. A rating of 10 means that it is a relationship that is popping, healthy, and ideal.
However, be warned that you need to be honest with how you rate your relationships. Because if you say that your relationship is a 10, then you’ve died and gone to heaven. There isn’t a single relationship in the world that is a 10. BUT, what you may have is a relationship that has moments of 10.
You can have a great relationship but, odds are, you will still encounter some challenges and stumbles on the road. Stop looking for perfection in a relationship because it doesn’t exist. There could never be perfection in a relationship because we are human beings and we are not perfect.
You get moments when everything just falls into place and is great. These are moments of 10 because you feel happy and complete. But they are not consistent. Why? Because life happens. And when it does, those moments of 10 gets lost.
And so, it is important to foster a healthy relationship so that even when the moments of 10 come and go, your relationship will still be strong enough to reach a higher rating and a higher level.
Here are some essential steps that you can take to foster, build, and cultivate healthy and strong relationships with people in your different circles: