Honesty Check: How Powerful Are Your Emotions?

By Esther | August 18th 2020 | Self-Care Series, Life and Purpose

Our emotions drive us. Whatever emotion you are struggling with shows up every single day. And this affects how we show up in our journey to finding our why.

I had a conversation with my dear friend Yah Hughes and as we talked about purpose and our own experiences that led us to discovering our true calling, Yah explained to me the impact that our emotions have in our life and our purpose.

I would assume that by now you understand that all of us were made for a specific reason and a specific purpose. It is part of our life’s journey to find out what that purpose is. But sometimes life doesn’t allow you to believe that. At times, situations and circumstances make you believe that you are not worthy, and you begin to doubt yourself and experience a lot of negative emotions that often blind you from seeing your truths.

But if you want to get to your next level, your flaws and your emotional well-being has to be addressed.

Your emotions and your mindset go hand in hand. Many times, people want to do the work on the surface and not deal with emotions. But you need to put in a great deal of work to come out of fearful states and to get out of your comfort zone for your purpose to be birthed.

Step back and take time to really process your emotions.                

Emotions are data and not directives. The emotions that we feel always come to tell us something and that is the data. But many times, we get it wrong by listening to our emotions, allowing them to drive us, allowing fear to make decisions for us, and allowing rejection to tell us who we are and who we are not.

When you feel pain in an area of your body you go to the doctor and get lab tests done to find out what is going on in that area and why you are feeling that pain. It should be the same with emotions. Your emotions are data and you need to look at them as some sort of a warning that there is something that’s going on that you need to possibly fix.

When you figure that out, you cease to be on the puppet strings doing the things that your emotions make you feel you should do.

As you understand that your emotions are supposed to tell you that something needs your attention, you then need to figure out the why. Are your emotions requiring you to take a step back, or to learn a little more about the situation? Get to the root of your emotions. What does it make you feel like? What inadequacies and insecurities come up as a result of your emotions?

If you don’t manage your emotions, your emotions will always manage you. As a result, you will find yourself in a perpetual state of living in fear, living in rejection, and not truly living out your purpose.

Purpose is who you were created to be. Your purpose is your intention. God created you for a purpose and your purpose is to fill a void here on earth. Whatever that void is, it’s a job that only you can do and what you were created specifically to do.

The something that you were created to do can show up in different facets of your life. A tree is the same in different locations, but they serve a different purpose depending on what the people in that location needs from it.

Purpose is the same. Depending on the season, depending on where you are in your life, your purpose evolves. You go through different stages and seasons, but you need to go through them so that you can get to your purpose and live it.

There are times you may get tempted to bypass some things in purpose. As you get to where God wants you to be or where you want to get to, you sometimes don’t stay in the work and you may think that you can easily get there by just one quick fix. Sometimes you may compartmentalize and try to address some areas and leave the work in other areas. But it doesn’t really serve you at all as it only hinders you from fulfilling your purpose to that final where.

Operating in purpose and doing the work requires a holistic approach. You can’t choose to fix and work on just one area and expect to be successful and walking in purpose right away. When you succeed in one area, celebrate it but don’t slack off. It is a process and there’s more that you need to do and a decision that you need to make every day.

When you deal with and get out of your pain, you tend to get excited. But you need to understand that you’re not quite in purpose yet because you’re not thriving, and you’re actually stuck in survival mode.

So be intentional about showing up every single day and work on a holistic approach. Encourage yourself to really fully carry out your purpose and don’t let attitude, rejection, fear, or anything else stop you from truly living out.

Ask yourself the difficult questions but don’t make excuses for your answers. Look deep within you and try to understand what it really is that you need to unlearn so that you can fully embrace your purpose and do what you are called to do. This requires that you make a decision, every single day, that in those uncomfortable moments you are still going to stay and you’re going to do the work.

The work may get hard and moments may occur where you don’t understand what’s going on and so it hurts you mentally and emotionally. At these moments, you have to be honest with yourself and where you are, with what you need and what you’re lacking. There has to be a decision that you show up every single day to see the changes through.

Make a decision to unlearn so that you can embrace a new mindset, embrace healing and wholeness so that you can fully operate in purpose. Oftentimes people find a lot of excuses to hold themselves back from stepping into their purpose, and they often tell themselves that:

“I can’t do this.”

“That’s just too hard for me.”

“That’s just not me.” 

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